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Being What We Want To Become Each Day!

Richard G. Scott

Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.

— Oscar Wilde.

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I titled this “Consistent Struggle” because how committed are we to staying in a struggle we was never designed to stay in. We are suppose to be the PRODUCT of deliverance and freedom. We have become comfortable in the Consistent Struggles of Life when everything we need is right in front of us telling us to go back to school, apply for jobs we don’t qualify for, sign up for classes, get starting writing the book, go get our credit worked on, SAVE, stop settling, etc.

We have to stop being COMFORTABLE in the CONSISTENT STATE of BEING and doing enough to just get by and or being satisfied in the struggle, waiting for God to do something He’s already equipped and paved the way for us to do.

Day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year, season after season we PROCLAIM, DANCE, SHOUT, PRAY, YELL, etc. over the same CONSISTENT STRUGGLE without ever really UTILIZING the Gift God’s placed in us. God has already given us the GREEN LIGHT better yet He’s given us the tools, strategies, knowledge, and YES as He did David in 1 Samuel 30:8 “Pursue and Recover ALL.”

The question to pardon on:

Will You Stay CONSISTENTLY STRUGGLING?

2025: The Year of Pruning, Positioning, and Refining…

2025 EXHAUSTED Me…It EXPOSED ME to ME..the parts I hidden, the WOUNDS I ignored, and the STRENGTH I didn’t know I had…It EXPOSED the TRUTH about those who said they LOVED me but SHOWED me their LOYALTY had LIMITS…


It REMINDED Me that not everyone who says “I LOVE YOU” MEANS it, and not everyone who LOSES You deserves another CHANCE…I LEARNED that LOVE isn’t proven by WORDS, but by WHO STAYS when it’s no longer CONVENIENT…

2025 BROKE Me…but the BREAKING was a BLESSING disguised as EMBARRASSMENT…

It wasn’t until I YIELDED that 2025 became a year of HEALING…a year of great PURGING, REDIRECTION, and ALIGNMENT and a year of TRUE DELIVERANCE from things that had held me CAPTIVE for years. But I found My TRUTH, GROWTH in DISCIPLINE and GRACE in OBEDIENCE…

It taught me TRUE INTENTIONALITY…to move with PURPOSE, not PRESSURE…


It taught me the ART of ACCOUNTABILITY and the CONSEQUENCES of DISOBEDIENCE…


It taught me REAL SURRENDER…I had to BELIEVE He was working even when I couldn’t see it…

It redefined my PURPOSE for GATHERING in God’s House, shifting my focus off of people and placing more REVERENCE on God…I learned that excuses from a HURTING place can make you feel UNSAFE even in SACRED SPACES…Because excuses are often just COMFORTABLE HURT…a way to PROTECT what needs HEALING…My FEELINGS were very VALID, but when PAIN became My LENS, even what’s SACRED can start to look UNSAFE…

So it taught me TRUE HONOR…how to SERVE from WHOLENESS, not WOUNDS…


It taught me how to FOCUS on ME and to SAY NO without guilt…

It taught me how to GET TO KNOW ME…how to TRULY LOVE MYSELF beyond the version I thought I had to be to please others…

My WORTH spoke LOUD…I don’t have to be TOLERATED to be ACCEPTED…


It taught me how to CUT OFF ACCESS to ME when My Mental Health demanded it…So in BOLDNESS and with BOLDNESS I CHOOSE ME unapologetically understanding the value of PEACE and PROTECTION…

I now know the HEALTH in AUTHENTIC LOVE, because My LOVE never held LIMITS or CONDITIONS…


2025 I became more TEACHABLE…

2025 made me more MATURE…


I became VULNERABLE to God and My SECRET place became more SECURE…


It taught me SPIRITUAL SENSITIVITY and how to SHOW UP with PURPOSE…


2025…FEAR had to LOOSE ME…I was reminded that there is no FAILURE IN GOD and that TRUTH gave me PERMISSION to DREAM again and FINISH what I STARTED…

2025 was a year of STRETCHING…I fought God but I also fought for WHERE I AM TODAY…

2025 was a year of PROCESS…I couldn’t take NO DETOURS. Every detour I tried to take, reminded me how dare I keep STEPPING out of the process just to PLEASE my FLESH…I had to accept what I couldn’t change…It was a season of RESTORATION and REVELATION…a PROCESS that demanded my SILENCE without LOSING my VOICE…I knew when to SPEAK and when to be SILENT…I TALKED less but CRIED and PRAYED More…

2025 was a year of RECOVERY…Quietly reshaping my life through CONSISTENT INTERCESSION and SURRENDERED PRAYER, REMINDING me that intercession is sustained by consistency and prayer by PROPER POSITIONING…

I was DISCONNECTED from what DRAINED me and RECONNECTED to what RESTORED me.


2025 TESTED my FAITH but PROTECTED my POSTURE…

I learned what to ENTERTAIN and what not to…
I picked my battles WISELY, if it didn’t EDIFY, I left well enough alone.

2025 OPENED MY EYES…

Nothing was WASTED…

I am not the same person I was a few months ago…Months ago, I was just SURVIVING, Now I’m choosing to be SUSTAINED…My YES said YES…

2026 I Stepped into a YEAR of BECOMING…

Another LEVEL…

A DEEPER PROCESS…

AND an I PRESS…

This year 2026 I’ll SMILE and LAUGH more than I CRY and if I happen to CRY, I won’t CRY HARDER than I PRAISE…

I feel more WISER, more AWARE, and WAY MORE DEPENDENT on God… 

Philippians‬ ‭3‬:‭13-14 KJV‬‬

“Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.”
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Jeremiah‬ ‭29‬:‭11‬ ‭KJV‬

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”


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Romans‬ ‭8‬:‭18‬ ‭KJV‬

“For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”
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Philippians‬ ‭1‬:‭6‬ ‭KJV‬

“being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:”
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More GRACE…

Life On The Edge

Have you ever been AFRAID, FEARFUL, or just out right SCARED? I mean afraid to sleep, fearful of the thoughts that cloud your judgement, and just scared that you might get more heartbreaking news. Well let’s just talk about ME. I am Afraid, I am Fearful, and I am Scared. It is all a bad thing, only when it all begins to cripple our thoughts, challenge our faith, and keep us stagnant so we will never fulfill PURPOSE and MOVE FORWARD in the things of God.

Last year I made up my mind that I am going to run this race whether I wanted to or not and whether I was afraid or not. I placed 2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given me (us) a Spirit of Fear, but of POWER and of LOVE and of a SOUND MIND” around my home to be read daily and to get it in my spirit. One thing I come to realize is that the Spirit of Fear will come back to “CHECK YOU OUT” and if you were never taught how to FIGHT you will always find yourself back in the place and or state of being of AFRAID, FEARFUL, or SCARED.

PAUSE – Here’s Some Background (Very Transparent) Information

Losing My Mother was a hard blow to My Heart, Sanity, and even My Womanhood. I Lived Life on the Edge; I was AFRAID to Sleep, I became FEARFUL of Preaching, and I was SCARED that I would be the first sibling to die. My thought process was off, I was depressed, I ate out of emotion, I depised seeing Mother/Daughter interaction because this is what I longed for, and the list goes on. Years had passed and I slowly begin to regain consciousness, needless to say I wasn’t breathing at all. I just LIVED LIFE ON THE EDGE. Fear made me not want to open my mouth and not want to preach anymore.

WAIT! Who said we can pick up a CALL and put it down when we wanted to?

I’m back! Whew, I am so grateful God didn’t cut me off as I cut Him off time after time. I begin to regain consciousness and God begin to heal my heart. I had some deep rooted things I needed to deal with, because of what I longed for, I made some bad decisions and I put people in places they should have never been, making it easy for them to take advantage of me in my unstable state. I was no longer healthy mentally but I masked it so well, I was no longer as strong but I played the part. I just knew I had to FIGHT! I fought for my IDENTITY, I fought to LIVE, I fought to CHANGE, and I fought to be BETTER. I was Better, I was Changing, I was Living, I knew WHO I WAS, and I was GROWING UP. Suddenly, LIFE HAPPENED again. I became worst off, and FEAR creeped back in. This time around I didn’t want to do it in FAITH and I became really Afraid, Fearful, and Scared but the more I resisted the more of an URGENCY God pressed upon me, Intercession has been heavy on me, God even begin to press upon me the need to be Consistent. My ignore game became strong and I went down this dark path. I no longer wanted God! But I realized when God wants you, when there is a Destiny, when there is a Purpose God will allow you to do it all in PAIN because PAIN has a PURPOSE. God tugged and tugged and I resisted and resisted. I wanted to stay right where I was, it was not only easier this way, it was comfortable and I felt like if I turn to the world just maybe I’ll have less headaches and heartaches. Let’s be honest, not every believer is in a scandal and not every believer is living in sin there are some sold out believers but it seems the greater the CALL the greater the WARFARE. I have come to realize God took far worst PAIN for His PURPOSE. After all there were three CROSSES on CALVARY on the day Jesus Christ was CRUCIFIED. This is why we are here, this is why I am here, FOR PURPOSE.

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I Know the Thoughts I Think Towards You, says the Lord. Thoughts of Peace and not of Evil, to give you (US) an EXPECTED END.

Present Day September 2022, as I am still WALKING out this journey, early this month I realized how much higher God was calling me to. URGENCY is what I felt, the need to PRESS is what I felt. I knew I needed to be honest with myself, in order for me to GO and GROW in the things of God, I needed to work on me Mentally. I needed to shut out all the noise, all the depending on Pom, all the invitations that wasn’t safe for me in this season, all the naysayers, all the confiding, all the giving of me, all the weight I carried trying to save and cover people. I realized I still LIVED LIFE ON THE EDGE. Did you know that LIVING LIFE ON THE EDGE does not only equate to being AFRAID, FEARFUL, or SCARED? Living Life On The Edge can be living in the shadow of others, Living Life On The Edge can be seeking validation, Living Life On The Edge can be masked in so many different things and only God can make us aware of it when we are honest with us. Living Life On The Edge can be potentially damaging to our mental state and begin to affect our physical state. This is why it’s imperative that we realize PAIN doesn’t come to SCARE us and PAIN doesn’t come to FEAR us if you ever LOVED you will feel PAIN. PAIN is a Teacher, it taught me there is always ROOM FOR IMPROVEMENT. PAIN is a Reacher, it has me reaching out for tables that only God can place me at. This year while in PAIN, it made me take hard looks at myself, it made me LOVE deeper, it made me check my HEART consistently, it made me Honest, it made me Bolder and PAIN is MAKING ME BETTER. There is PURPOSE behind the PAIN! I am yet and still a work in progress but I am doing the work so I can be a Healthy Help in Life and in Ministry.

Advice To Know: When you are mentally unstable and or trying to heal every atmosphere isn’t safe for you right now. This is where you must really trust God to order your steps. This year I have gotten so many invitations to go places and help different individuals celebrate. I became afraid of disappointing people that depended on me because of my need to support and show up for everyone. However, God was saying to me if you go into this atmosphere you’re going in blindly and uncovered, you will see something that’s not meant for you to see and take on right now. I am a seer and I pick up on people easily when I am not fighting. This time individuals just had to be disappointed, what matters most is that I am Healthy in My Healing or I won’t be good for anyone in any atmosphere. So be careful and be honest, we don’t have to be on every scene. Some atmospheres aren’t safe or healthy for your process of healing.

I didn’t say I was over the Loss (Life Happened) but I am in a place of Healthy Healing. I can no longer LIVE MY LIFE ON THE EDGE. Responding to trauma placed my brain on edge and greatly impacted my control center. It placed me in a fearful place and it became damaging to my emotions and mentality. But don’t overlook the different traumas that come to “CHECK YOU OUT.” I’m dealing with mines, are you dealing with yours? Nothing will ever be too much for God because Faith Triumphs in Trouble the Bible says in Romans 5:1-5 “Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we started, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God. And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope. Now hopes does not disappoint, because the LOVE of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.”

The reason I preach Healing and the importance of #GrowGirl is because I am one that had to heal and is healing and I am one that continues to #GrowGirl.

Don’t be in a state of suffering in silence, GET UP, Get to a REAL SAFE place with REAL SAFE people and HEAL Healthy and while you’re at it #GrowGirl.

I AM!

God Is In The Details

Today being January 1, 2022, since January 1, 2021 life was uncertain, challenging, unbearable, rewarding on some days and ugly on others, it was difficult to get out of bed and face the impossible and on other days it was easy but also overwhelming to say the least. It was one fight after the other, one struggle after the other, it was one storm after the other, as time went on nothing made sense anymore as I watched things good and bad unfold in the natural and spiritual. It was these moments that made me realize my life was not my own. Needless to say, the things I use to cry about I found myself laughing and praying about therefore, I prayed more than I cried. I grew pass the emotional roller coaster but I also found myself suppressing things I needed to deal with in order to continue growing. So I had to ask God some hard questions because usually not facing it, not talking about it, not dealing with it is always easier right? But that doesn’t help us grow up, we have got to face the hard things within us in order to heal properly and reach that level of wholeness that has been ordained for us, because operating from a hurt place can be damaging to others.

Side Bar: A wise Woman of God, My Pastor to be exact, told me months ago, see God in it all, ask God, what is it He wants you to learn? What is it He’s trying to teach you? What is it He’s trying to get out of you? Because nothing just comes to make us doubt the very existence of who God is and what He’s capable of doing. Things come to TEST and HUMBLE us, it is not what we GO THROUGH, it is HOW we GO THROUGH IT. GOD IS IN THE DETAILS!

Certainly, when life deals us a hand we deem unbearable, with a natural eye we don’t see God working and we want to believe that all things really do work together for good to those who love God (Romans 8:28). But the bible didn’t say ALL GOOD THINGS, ALL BAD THINGS, ALL UNCERTAIN THINGS, simply put ALL THINGS; the good, the bad, the ugly, the indifferent, the uncertain, IT IS ALL IN THE DETAILS of what God has already spoken. Indeed, God allows us to wander in the wilderness from time to time, because adversity does not build character, adversity reveals character and what comes out of us during adversity helps us to see what is really inside of us and tells us who we really are. During this season of my life “GROWTH SEASON” I found myself apologizing to individuals that initially wronged me, even in their wrong I’m the one that represents Christ, I’m the one that God sought out to be the example, most importantly I am the one with the Holy Ghost. But I wanted to be in my feelings, I wanted to be the victim instead of seeing exactly what God was trying to show me and when we do not obey God, when we do not listen, and try to do this thing on our own we make a bigger mess of it. It showed me MYSELF in the process, remember BUILD vs. REVEAL! It’s something about not forgiving people, I didn’t go back and apologize because I wanted to rebuild relationships, I had to go back because my heart in God wasn’t right and I did not properly handle my pain. I got so caught up in the PAIN, that I almost missed the PURPOSE of the PROCESS. The bibles says in 1 Peter 5:10 (KJV) “But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto His eternal Glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, establish, strengthen, settle you.” God knew there would be days of suffering, He knew we’d have bad days, and He knew we’d get our little feelings hurt but it’s intended only for a little while, people of God, He is in the Details of your Life.

On October 31, 2021 I preached a message titled “You’ve Been Picked Out, to be Picked On” during the process of delivery, God begin to deal with me as it relates to Spiritual Maturity. Which is where Growth and Grow up comes in. Though this past year was trying, I can honestly say I grew up in areas I thought I’d keep that Little Girl in me hidden, I grew up mentally, emotionally, and spiritually which is why I found it easy to accept God’s correction on my Spiritual Maturity. GOD IS IN THE DETAILS! The Bible says in Jeremiah 29:11 (KJV) “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” One day I was having a melt down about something that God was showing me didn’t matter but I didn’t see it the way He wanted me to or maybe I just didn’t want to see it that way.

Sidebar: Adulting can be quite difficult at times. Growing Pains is even more difficult. It wasn’t until I became an adult mentally that I begin to appreciate all things I was disciplined for growing up. I now appreciate the things and the people I took for granted. I realized we can be adults in AGE but not in MIND. And the Body of Christ are the ones screaming “I’m grown” but will not be grown enough to TALK ABOUT IT (My next blog “We Need To Talk”). Stay Tuned!

Once I pulled myself together to hear God, He begin to tell me, Spiritual Maturity is when we can identify the attack and not ignore the necessary GROWTH steps that the attack comes to push us into. It is the depth of identifying and or realizing the GROWING reality of what is. We can’t be petty and be Spiritually Mature; being petty can cause the demise of not only our GROWTH but someone else’s. It can cause us to miss the level of GROWTH ordained to help us GROW beyond us. Spiritual Maturity is knowing when to speak and when to be silent, everything that happens doesn’t require our opinion, Spiritual Maturity causes us to self reflect and self evaluate even when it’s painful to do so (message me for the full version of Spiritual Maturity). I come to the realization that our go through has nothing to do with the individuals assigned to us, we can not forfeit GROWING UP in God because someone hurt us, we can not forfeit LEADING because of an uncertain and potentially damaging season, we can not forfeit TEACHING our students because life dealt us an uncertain hand, we can not forfeit being a Wife to our Husband, a Faithful Servant in our Church, a Mother/Father to our Children, a Mentor to our Mentees, a Friend/Sister/Brother to the people that entrusted us with their hearts etc. because we don’t feel like being bothered, because of a sudden shift in our lives, because we are lonely, because we don’t know where God is and what He’s doing. GOD IS IN THE DETAILS and we can not approach a supernatural window with a logical mentality, see God in the disruption. When things are looking up, we Thank Him. Why not Thank Him when things aren’t looking up? Easier said than done right? No, it was tough, it was hard being left where I was, but IT HAD TO HAPPEN, for my GROWTH and YOURS. The Plan, Promise, and Prophecy concerning our lives has all been in the DETAILS. People of God this is not the time to GIVE UP, Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts said it best Girl, GET UP. Oglatha B. says GET UP, don’t give the enemy any more credit than he deserves. Yes the warfare has been great but the reward is greater. IT’S STILL GOING HAPPEN! The last season may have DISTRACTED YOU, but it didn’t DAMAGE OR DESTROY YOU. You must know by now GOD IS IN THE DETAILS. Just WATCH and don’t WASTE your WAIT.

Meet Me (God) in the Mess

Mess: a situation or state of affairs that is CONFUSED or full of DIFFICULTIES.

Growing up in Church as a little girl, I have always heard God doesn’t care about how filthy we are, just come to Him just as you are and He will do the rest. My testimony isn’t drinking, smoking, fornicating, clubbing etc. I was the one that battled with “ME”, one that battled in my mind, one that battled with trust issues, one that would buy friendships young and old and they still turned on me, one that was used, one that was abused (blog for another time), one that battled with low self-esteem, one that loved hard but ended up with a broken heart, one that wanted to be with the crowd, one that would build walls, one that would shut down, one that remained loyal and was still disappointed, etc. This is the MESS: the CONFUSED & DIFFICULT STATE that God wanted me to Meet Him in, not wait until I fully PROCESSED and HEALED, because truth be told in this walk we are always PROCESSING and HEALING, for every round goes higher and higher, there is a new devil for every level we allow God to take us, and the warfare is great when we have been PICKED OUT and CHOSEN by God Himself.

Mess can be turned into something beautiful only through God.

I have not been able to sleep for the past 2 months, I have been in a state of tiredness, frustration, discouragement, mentally drained, confusion etc. I did not want to GIVE UP, I knew that wasn’t an option. I just did not know anything else to say to God, so I depended upon Romans 8:26 “Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.” But it still wasn’t enough. When life happens and the Mess that came with it puts us in a state of feeling inadequate, we often times second guess what God told us. WELL I DID! God really did show me a glimpse of my future and where I would be in the next 2 years, but when what He SAYS do not line up with what you SEE, you retreat. WELL I RETREATED! I started to doubt the same God that did it way back then. I started to really think there was know God and all I could say was “I PRAY MY FAITH DON’T FAIL.” The entire time for 2 months God was pulling on me to FIGHT through what I SEE but remember what He SAID, He was pulling on me to accept the mantle of Prayer, stay consistent in it and to also go deeper in it, even if I had to get up earlier than 4am. I was up all types of the night, tossing and turning, watching TV, looking at clothes, etc. God would bring before me different faces and all I had strength enough to say was “I PRAY THEY ARE ALRIGHT.”

What do you do when what you SEE, do not line up with what God SAID? Meet Me (HIM) in the Mess!

This may not be your testimony, this may not be your struggle and this may not be your MESS. Messes come in a lot of different ways. Sometimes they come through a strain in a relationship, a failed marriage, a misunderstanding with a family member, a mistake at work or perhaps a financial mistake at home. We all have regrets, failures, temptations, struggles with certain sins and past pain and failures that can trip us up in life.

You may be looking at your life and thinking: “the Mess I am in is absolutely, hands down NOT beautiful.“

You may have already decided that your situation is not redeemable and you are run down, depleted, defeated and want to run for the hills and escape your mess.

But your STORY is not done being written by God.

Look at Rahab, she was born a gentile. She worshipped pagan gods and sold her body for money but, through her Faith in God she became engrafted into the family of God! She Meet God in the MESS and He not only saved her but her family as well. (See Joshua 2).

Surrendering to God takes courage and when we surrender our mess we must remember this, God doesn’t always take our mess and tie it up neatly in a pretty bow with a happy ending. What He wants to do is use our mess, use our story, use our pain, heartaches, struggles and past to COMFORT, to ENCOURAGE and HELP OTHERS.

I challenge you people of God to FIGHT! Fight for your FREEDOM in God! Nothing is too hard for God, there is nothing you can do that would make Him turn His back on you. I don’t care what it looks like right now, IT WON’T BE THIS WAY ALWAYS, God didn’t bring us this far through a Pandemic to leave and forget us now.

So why don’t you just MEET ME (GOD) IN THE MESS!

Scriptures I live by in My Mess:

1 Peter 5:10 “But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.”

2 Corinthians 4:17-18 “For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of Glory, while we do not look at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen. For the things which are seen are temporary, but the things which are not seen are eternal.”

Romans 8:18 “For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”

Be Encouraged! Your TIME and TURN is coming!

I’M DONE

“I’m Done” can sometimes mean “I quit”, “I give up”, “I’m sick of this”, “I can’t do this anymore” or “I refuse to participate in this any longer.” I guess you already know where I am going with this! How many times have we’ve said I’m DONE? We’ve been done with Life, People, Church, God, Love, Family, being nice, living right etc. We’ve just been DONE! But when Jesus died on the cross, He never said “I quit” “I give up” “I’m sick of this” “I can’t do this anymore” or ” I refuse to participate in this any longer.” (See John 19:30 NKJV) When Jesus said “It is finished” He meant PAID IN FULL. That the debt owed by man to His Creator on account of Adam’s sin is finally and forever dealt with. Jesus, with “It is finished,” is saying not only does He take away man’s sin, but now He removes it as far as the east is to the west, for it is finished, done, signed and sealed because of the blood of Jesus.

If Jesus NEVER thought for once about GIVING UP on us and He knows EVERYTHING about us before and after we got saved, why would we even dear to want to be “DONE” with ONE ANOTHER? Some relationships I get it are seasonable but I tell you what though you fall out with individuals and though some relationships end abruptly, I have come to accept that there is nothing that can make me have beef or hold grudges with anyone. We may no longer be in relationship or in covenant but we certainly will never be enemies.

In this blog I share my heart about the people in my life God gave me. We can choose our friends but we certainly do not choose our families. There are times when you can be surrounded by so many individuals and yet feel so alone. What we have to do is understand and accept some seasons are meant to be endured alone, no matter what relationships are established, when we are in Christ, some times God allows us to endure journeys on our own of course with His assistance because He wants us to solely dependent upon Him. I was once done with my siblings and so many others. From pushing to write this blog as God led me, I had to mature in certain areas I had to grow pass the I’m Done Cry, the I do not Trust anyone Cry, The I’m Hurt Cry, etc. I had to move beyond where I was and how I was thinking and learn to see things how God sees them. Even He can be confusing at times but I TRUST Him. My Siblings and I may disagree but you will never again hear me say I’M DONE! This is FOREVER! No matter what we endure and what we face we are STUCK on this journey TOGETHER. I only want WHOLE COVENANT relationships and when you allow God to do surgery on your heart issues those are the only relationships you will encounter and you will attract. I have experienced a sudden lost of “Friends” in 2019 and 2020, it bothered me at first but God helped me realize I cannot take them into my NOW or my NEXT. They was only meant to be apart of my THEN. I get that now!

Here I encouragement My Siblings of what’s been in and on my heart. I want them to know there is such a call on their lives and they will not fully walk in complete wholeness, happiness and operate in their fullest potential until they surrender to the one and true living God. There is no way around it, God has so much in store for each of you. We inherited the heart and love we show others from our parents and from the womb, He’s chosen, He’s called and He’s anointed us for this hour. I don’t care what you find yourself in, how successful you might feel you are, if God is not in it there will always be something missing. know that the prayers of our parents has been protecting us and their continued prayers still covers. But there comes a time where God pulls the hedge, don’t be a Jonah, I CHALLENGE YOU ALL TO SURRENDER your will for His.

Bingo – is the oldest child of 16 but yet the baby of us all. He likes to have fun, he just likes to look nice, he loves his beer and cigarettes and he will cuss you out over it and come back later and $5 you to death. That’s just the baby in him, he do not hold grudges, that cussing out could be 5 minutes later and he’s your best friend within that 6th minute. Today it breaks my heart to see him how he is now, but he shall LIVE. Big Bro, LIVE as long as you want. God has a way of slowing us down and making us trust Him, you increased my Faith significantly, there is NOTHING too hard for God. I just believe God has you right where He wants you. Know that WE got you and more so God’s GOT YOU. I Love You with My entire heart and there is nothing Mark and I will not do for you. I am excited about celebrating your Birthday this year because it could have been another way, what you endured has taught me to give those I Love their flowers while they’re still here and I will.

Latonia R – Miss I can’t hear out of that ear, Miss KNOW IT ALL and Miss I KNOW EVERYONE. She really does know a lot of people. She works my nerves, but there is nothing she won’t do for me. She’s been like a Mom to me, from taking care of me when I was sick to being at every major Dr. Appointment, to taking up for me when others treated me a certain way. Some things she had to take to God, but even she wasn’t always saved and wanted to do things in her own strength but that’s the Mom in her, that’s the LOVE in her. From a little girl watching you dress your behind off and learning from you melts my heart every time you step out and even ask me for advice, it just says your teachings and guidance through the years has paid off and for you to ask me means a lot. Big Sis, I have even watched you shop until you drop and I have watched you struggle. But you never changed your CONFESSION or your POSTURE. Can we say the struggle been over and it’s your time to REAP. You have grown and yet growing. In this season don’t stop growing and seeking the face of God for your family and those you embrace daily. Don’t just get older with age but allow God to grow you up even the more in Him and birth you into your NOW. The reason certain things bother you even through all the toughness is because of your heart, you have a heart of GOLD and there is nothing you will not do for any one that crosses your path. Even when people shun you, use you and show you the real them. You always embrace them no with a REAL hug and smile. Even if they need you to be there for them, you’re right there. Keep being you, God shall continue to raise you up, allow all the shade, the talk, the attack, the disloyalty to build you, refine you and make you. God has so much in store for you, WALK in the POWER, His grace is sufficient and don’t forget to LIVE while doing so.

Deon & Dez– Big Bro, I remember the days of getting whatever I wanted and needed from you. There was never a NO. I miss you immensely, during the years of being in the South, getting your random calls and text were on days I needed them the most. This day in this blog I just come back to say THANK YOU. Thank you for always being truthful, when things needs to be said you’re honest about it. You never take sides which is what I love about your character and you’re so forgiving. Know that I Love You with everything in me and there is nothing I won’t do for you. I have watched you work hard to provide for your family, even when things were crazy you stood by each of your children, cheering them on and just being there. No matter what anyone says, TIME is everything to children and you exhibit that well. It speaks well of who you as a MAN, a FATHER and a Big Brother. Keep striving Big Brother, I am looking forward to you one day relocating to the South or somewhere we can all visit. Dez, you deserve it ALL and more, you have weathered so many storms with my Big Brother. I cannot see any other Women strong enough to stand beside him. Thank you for sticking it out, thank for you for having my nieces and thank you for loving me the way you do. Your love and heart is genuine, there is no in between with you either you either like someone or you don’t and they gone know it. From a teen I’ve felt nothing but PURE LOVE from you. I Love You Both and I pray that everything you desire you have, everything your hands touch becomes blessed and you both LIVE as long you want upon this earth, happy and full of LIFE, LOVE and LAUGHTER to give to everyone that graces your presence.

Shynette – My Baby Sis (LOL). The season you’re in is called HEALING, WHOLENESS, GROWING PAINS and YES. I see you and I see me, I see you and I see the FUTURE YOU, it looks so beautiful. But first God has to process ALL of you from the secret cries, the secret fears, the secret frustrations, the secret insecurities etc. that you never talk about. Allow Him to refine and sustain you in this season. Trust Him with every part of you, He won’t and He can’t fail you. I am so proud of you, I am so proud to call you My Big Sister, no you aren’t perfect and I never expect you to be. I’ve learned in this season of my life that it’s okay to not be okay. Big Sis, at times it’s okay to not be okay. God has you planted and you shall not be moved. Keep pressing, don’t stop pushing, God is giving you sustaining power in this season. I Love you beyond words and I say to you be selfish in this season, it’s all about you, grow in God, continue to grow up in God and protect the peace God grants you. He has not forgotten the prayers, you’ve prayed concerning your Son’s. He will do just what you asked Him to do but first He’s going to do it in you. I Love You!

Shyneen & Mark– I call you the beggar. I know for some time you have been trusting God for so many things and I believe God is going to give you a marvelous testimony not only for you and your household but also the concerns of your children. Your prayers are not in vain, your fasting is not in vain, your praise is not in vain, you serving is not in vain; you will reap if you faint not. Now is not the time to give up or doubt God. His promises are YES and AMEN. Mark, thank you for capturing the heart of My Big Sis, thank you for loving her the way you do, you both have been the example and the standard of what FIGHTING and STANDING in a marriage looks like. Continue to strive to be the Man of God you’re destined to be. You both will never escape the calling, anointing and destined place God has for you. When you surrender fully, you’ll both see doors you’ve been awaiting to swiftly fly open. God has need of you both and you will reap if you faint not. I Love you both!

Linda & Sylvester – There are many names to describe you, between you and Tonia I often tell people you’re My Mom. That’s just how I see you, though you struggle with your own insecurities you’re yet so motherly, nourishing and caring. Andrew and Waliek has to go because I was your first child, I wanted for nothing, there was never a NO with you. I believe in my adulthood there is still never a NO. Big Sis, I have watched you from a little girl, you do for others that don’t even like you. Yes, you speak up and is so blunt at times but I see pass that, I get so upset with you at times because of the POTENTIAL and the POWER you possess that you keep running from. In this season of your life, I don’t want my Big Sis to just get older with time, I want you to grow in the knowledge of God, I want you to grow up in life and in God, think beyond you, this battle was never about you but the ones assigned to you. Why you think your FIGHT is so strong, because you’re chosen. God is going to fulfill every dream and answer every thing that concerns you, even the things you never talk about for this is the season of fulfilled Prophecy, things you were promised, things that were spoken over your life years ago shall be manifested but He’s going to first BREAK you, than He’s going to BLESS you, than give you to the people. Sis, we can’t afford to waste anymore time, WALK into your DESTINED placed! Many are awaiting your YES so they can experience the ministry you’re called too. Don’t let them die waiting on you because there are some things only you can pour into those assigned to you. There is no way you can walk beside My Brother in Love and not walk in destiny and fulfill purpose, that’s why he prays the way he does. He sees what you run from, He sees the fight but I tell you when you surrender, the world better watch out. Big Bro, Thank you for keeping my Big Sis grounded, thank you for understanding the misunderstood part of her, thank you for correcting her when she needs it, thank you for loving her etc. You are the epitome of integrity, you walk it, you live it and you eat it. We may not talk much but I watch your walk, I know there are still Men of God living this gospel. Keep on keeping on, I can’t wait to celebrate the next level of Ministry with you both. You both are called and chosen, God’s plan is strategically perfect it has already been written. You stay the course, continue to stand for righteousness, continue to walk in the authority God has equipped you to walk in. And for You to God shall answer every prayer and everything that concerns you. Be encouraged, God hasn’t forgot. I Love you both immensely.

Charles & Beverly – What is it about you that you fear if you fully surrender to God? There is something in God that you fear that you have not given God your heart and your will, I don’t know if it’s a good thing, bad thing or a dangerous thing. God has a way of getting our full undivided attention. Ask me how I know? Big Bro, I Love You more than you know and more than I show. I challenge you to grow up in God, I challenge you to surrender in this season. A few years ago, My Former Pastor called me up and told me God said our mother has sown enough seeds for her children, children’s children and her children’s children children to live in abundance. I know for a fact we will each live in abundance and live in the wealth our parents did not live in but has been waiting on you, God has somethings to say to Charles if he ever surrenders his entire heart. Beverly, Thank you for being the Sister in Love you are. We do not talk often but when we do it’s like we never missed a beat. Thank you for keeping my big brother grounded. Being married has allowed me to see God in a different way, marriage is beautiful, marriage can also be challenging at times, we as woman, God have ordained us to pray like never before, to cover our spouses in prayer, strength and love. I challenge you to keep on praying in this season of your life, don’t bend and don’t you break, Keep pressing in this season, God has not forgotten about you, God has not forgotten about the silent tears, the silent fears and the silent frustrations. He has been waiting on you and Charles to give everything to Him. There is nothing too hard for Him, I am telling you both, you will reap if you faint not. Beverly, there is so much power in you, God has graced you with for such a time, Push Sis, Press Sis, Fight Sis, Giving up has never been an option. You possess the power and authority to ASK God a thing and it shall come to pass. I am rooting for you all the way in North Carolina. No more hold ups and no more hold backs. It’s time now to go Forth in God like never before, God has so much for you both, He’s just been awaiting you both so that you can walk in it. Let it ALL GO!! I Love You both and am praying for you both.

Kim – So bold but yet a baby at heart. My Big Sis, our Mothers twin outwardly and inwardly. The Prophet! Not only have I been waiting on you to fully surrender but God has been waiting on you also. The Kingdom needs you, more so in this day and time. You have a heart for the people of God, though you take no junk, you still have a servants heart and whatever you find your hands to do, you do it. I have watched you growing up doing this in and out of the Church, SERVE. You have gifts and talents that have been dormant for entirely too long, that God is saying He wants to use. Even while writing this, I can see you crying out to God, saying “If you can use anything Lord, you can use me.” This is what God is waiting for and I certainly believe that before His returns your confession will be just that. I challenge you Big Sis, let God deal with all of you, give Him all of your worries, frustrations, hurts, fears etc. Let Him do what you cannot do in your own strength. Trust Him with your life and everything you desire. God has a purpose and a plan for your life, He has somethings He needs you to know, but He needs to find you in a posture for Him to reveal it. YOU GOT THIS! I am rooting for you, I have always been rooting for you. I Love You Beyonds words! There was nothing I needed or wanted from you that I couldn’t get, you always came through for me and you have your own children. I thank you for being one of the ones I could get fashion advice from and could go shopping in your closet. Thank you for all the talks, thank you for trusting me anytime you needed me to listen. I do not take those moments for granted, I cherish every one of them and I will take every conversation to my grave. Just like you trust me, God wants you to know you can also trust Him. LIVE Sis, LOVE Sis and LAUGH Sis. God is getting ready to cause you to LIVE, LOVE and LAUGH again.

Erick – How long will you keep RUNNING Jonah? There is something about Oglatha’s, Charles and Walter’s Kids, something unique, something special and before God returns we will each have walked into our DESTINED places. I can’t tell you how much I get mad with you because of the call on your life, because of the anointing you carry that is designed for you to WIN souls, the souls of your generation and younger. THEY ARE WAITING ON YOU! They have been waiting on you, I’d say to you also, are you willing to let them die waiting on you? There are some only you can reach, only you can touch, only you can pray for, only you can touch, etc. God trusts you just that much, to assign these individuals to your hands. I honestly believe you already know what a surrendered POSTURE looks like. You know that God is so powerful that surrendering would mean NOT MY WILL, BUT YOUR WILL God. Brother, the time is NOW, you too will never be able to escape the call of God. No matter where you land, what you find yourself doing and what you’re in, God still has need of you, don’t make Him, make you surrender to the call. I Love You Much Big Bro, It’s time now, these young men need you, let alone these young men in our family. Stop just talking about it and be the change you want to see. I can’t tell you enough how much so many individuals look up to you, can you imagine how each of them will follow you to the ALTAR, can you imagine what their posture would be if you surrendered yours. I am rooting for you, I mean it with my entire heart. Allow God’s will to supersede your will, His will is PERFECT. Remember this if nothing else, YOU’RE DIFFERENT!! I Love You!

Omar & Monique – My favorite times with you has been high-school and churching together. You’re the only brother that can call me DEEP and get away with it. Now you’re too cool, the last hug was when my husband and I purchased our home and you came to bless us. I didn’t want to wash anymore. That’s how much I always valued you, our relationship, how you protected me, how you would randomly call me and say what you doing, how you came to get me from NY when I got sick and you was concerned which made me see the heart you carry still remains. I was done with you too, but I understand how God arranges things. I had to grow up in life and in God to see that just because people do not talk as much as they use to does not mean they love you any less. Big Bro, I know you love me. THRIVE Brother THRIVE! Though by now I’d thought you’d be Pastoring but my timing isn’t Gods timing, His timing is PERFECT. I am glad that you endured and saw some of things you’ve seen because once God says go you’d know what to do and what not to do. The thing is, once we’ve been broken, treating people Gods way isn’t a problem. You’re so STRONG, very STRONG that at times it scares me, I say to you, you do not always have to be strong. I remember the times of you worshipping on your knees, A Posture, every man should establish. Keep that posture, it’s SAFE there. Big Brother, go as far as life will take you, one thing I found out we can’t do this thing called life in our strength. Every single one of us have such a call on our lives, I do not want you to live life and not fulfill destiny. Walk in the POWER God ordained you to have from a little boy. There are many waiting to hear from you, the REAL You. So I admonish you to Keep growing, Keep Standing, Keep Pressing, PUSH. Not just the youth of today but the youth in our Family need you, they need to hear the truth, they need structure, they need guidance, etc. Sis in Love Moe, I see you and I see PRAYER WARRIOR. God has need of you, He’s kept you through everything because of it. Thank you for having my nieces, Thank you for loving my Big Brother and helping make him into the man he is today. God has even more in store for you and your family, I say to you DON’T STOP PRAYING. Prayer is your assigned weapon, you’re the one that can speak a thing and it comes to past. Gifting is all in you and Sis God hasn’t forgotten about you, He sees and He knows. I already told you YOUR PRAYERS is what will get His attention about every concern, fear, frustration, question etc. you have. I did not forget that when you and Omar walk into your calling, I am buying you your first hat. THRIVE Big Sis and WIN. I Love You Both beyond words, I am praying for you both and I am right here rooting you on. You’re both ALIVE because there is more!!

Lakenya – My Little Sister, the one that holds a key to my heart. I love your very existence. I am so honored to be apart of your YES season. Yes to God and to His Will, Yes to Growing, Yes to Marriage etc. I am so proud to watch you become the best you, to watch you grow up in life and in God is amazing. You are a jewel, you are an access to the Kingdom of God, the power you possess is unmatchable, it can not be compared. Do not be afraid of what God shows you, this just means He can trust you with what is on His heart and mind. Go through this process and come out, there is so much on the other side of your YES. This process will condition you to go further in God, you can not be stopped no matter what comes and who goes. Go with the SHIFT Sister. Not everyone is equipped to handle this process you’re in, not everyone will understand your process and the decision you will have to make and not everyone will be able to even celebrate your NEW and your NOW. REAPING season is here and you will reap if you faint not. I am smiling for most days and crying for you on others, I know what it’s like to go through growing pains, to have to speak when you want to be silent, to have to forgive and to have to push when you want to hide your face. GIVING UP has never been an option, so go through and do not stop. Stay focused, the enemy knows he has no foot hold on you so he’s willing to use those closest to you, IGNORE THE DISTRACTIONS and again I say GO WITH THE SHIFT. I see you in the future, Millionaire, I see you in the future, Wife, I see you in the future, Prophet, I see you in the future, Scholar, you must do everything God told you to do, OBEDIENCE for you will open major doors. It is one of your greatest weapons. I challenge you this day Sister, to Keep Pressing towards the mark, I challenge you to allow God to continue conditioning you through this process, I challenge you to Keep Growing, it’s your time. Life has a way of making us feel like because of what is happening around us, God did not say it. You and I both know your assignment, at the end of the process, WE SHALL DANCE. Keep your head up and know I am here to continue protecting your heart and fighting for you in the Spirit and in the Natural. I Love You to Life. Be encouraged, do not be moved by what you see but be moved by what God says, for surely it shall come to pass.

Darren – Little Big Brother, you’re the one that no matter how old you get, you will sit with your sister’s for hours talking, reminiscing and just having fun. You have always want and wanted to see each of us WIN. I know without a shadow of a doubt when you get to be wealthy, you’re bringing each one of your siblings with you. That’s just the type of heart you have, your word is usually your bond, you never entertain drama but rather knows when to shut it down and correct it. You never discriminate, no matter who is it, you are telling them truth be it right or wrong. Simple, truth to help us grow and challenge our thinking. Big/Little Bro, I cannot tell you enough how proud I am of you, you was suppose to be the famous NFL player, but perhaps God had other plans for your life. That was not His will and even now God is waiting for you to surrender your will for His. I do not know what is it about Mommy and Daddy Kids that they just will not surrender to the call of God. We will never be able to escape it and as long as we keep trying we will still find ourselves in circles, repeating the same cycles and feeling like something is missing. I remember years ago you telling me you know God is real because you cried out to Him for financial help and the next day you received a $1,000 check from school. Can you imagine what surrendering would do, when I tell you God has so much laid up for us, we will walk in the wealth our parent’s did not walk into, that’s how much God has stored up for us. God is not slack concerning His promises (2 Peter 3:9). I challenge you Bro, go back to what you know spiritually, God has been waiting to hear from you. Everything you and La would ever need and or want is the perfect will of God. LaAdah, Thank you for helping my brother get grounded, you’ve proved to Him that the sky isn’t the limit, through everything you’ve faced you still kept striving and pushing. You too Sis, God has need of you, Can you imagine you and Darren both surrendering to God in this season of uncertainty, that’s all God has been waiting for. You Sis have the power within you to PRAY like never before for what you not only want God to do within your life, home, children, marriage but what you NEED Him to do. FIGHT Girl, God has a way that is mighty sweet. You too can not escape the power, plan and call of God. You married someone with a call on His life and He married someone with a call on her life. Success not only awaits you both but also wealth. God just needs to know He can trust you with what He has stored up for you. I Love you Both wholeheartedly.

Kanisha – The very same words LIVE, LOVE and LAUGH are for you too. God is so strategic, this is what He’s causing you to do again in this season of your life. Happiness looks good on you! Healing looks good on you! Love looks good on you! I am so proud to have you protect me the way you do, I Love you with my entire being and I never had to question your love for me. This is the season where you come full force, you already know what has been placed on your life, you already know what you possess on the inside of you, this next shift I believe God will give you instructions on not only your assignment but life in itself. I can’t tell you enough how much God has in store for you, His plan is not only to make you SMILE but to make you REAP, you’ve SOWN in tears now is the time to REAP in JOY. Get ready Prophetess, this is an assignment you will never be able to escape. There are a remnant of souls that you specifically carry a word for. I challenge you Baby Sis, Keep shining, Keep growing, Keep grinding, Keep smiling, Keep maturing, Keep progressing, Keep standing and the list goes on. That’s how much God has in store for you. I Love You!

Shontice – The thing I Love about you is that you go after something and do it. You may not finish it the first time around but I believe if you keep trying, if you keep pressing, if you keep pushing you will FINISH. This scripture dropped in my spirit for you Psalms 139:14 NKJV “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful I know that full well. Baby Sis, you moving to Florida wasn’t all bad and it wasn’t all good. I realized it forced you to grow up. You are beautiful Baby Sis, with the heart of Gold. God never intended for you live life in bondage, I say to you, Get your FIGHT back. You are not alone in this walk, nor are you alone in this FIGHT, you aren’t even alone in this thing called Motherhood, you have a village of LOVE that surrounds you. Know that you are a great Sister and Mother, you can and will do this and you do not have to do it alone. FIGHT Baby Sis for your peace of mind and for your sanity. I remember growing up in NY and being saved at a young age, I would not only play school with you all but I would also play church with you. When you got out of hand, I remember telling you that you was going to hell and one day Mommy said to stop telling you that because you shared it with the counselor and became afraid. I said all that to say, God do not go around looking for souls to place in hell, hell is designed for the sinner that refuses God. You know the way, you were taught the way and that’s why you were able to pinpoint the essence of hell not being somewhere you want to spend eternity. You will WIN! Our relationship in this season has been strategic, getting closer to you and you trusting me with you heart, I am honored! Thank you for having my nieces and my nephew, though we had little time with Him, we shall see him again but it will take you giving everything, even you over to God. You can not do this thing called life without Him. Be encouraged and STAND even when you’ve exhausted all your strength, God is right there to lift you up. I Love You!

Kareem – Though I never get to see you until we gather, though I never get talk to you until I need ask a question, your love is still felt no matter where you are and what you’re doing. You’re the brother that have to hug and kiss all over your sisters no matter how old you get. I Love that, not all of us are affectionate in that sense but I am and it does my heart good to know you have not gotten too old to Love on us. Kareem, you’re the baby and I know it has been hard on you losing Mommy, but now is the time to make her more proud. She is ROOTING for her baby, her prayers concerning you are not in vain. I can still hear her saying God I give all of my children over to you. You know the way and the good thing about God is that, we are always His, we may FALL and we may go astray, but God still Loves us the same. You too will never be able to escape the call of God. It is just who God called each of us to be, the example, the standard, the impact, etc. Don’t make God make you surrender. God has so much in store for you, there is nothing that you’ve done that God will not forgive, now is the time to RUN for your life and do not look back. I Love you and am always here for you.

Shanasia – I Love You Sis with my entire heart. There are many with a heart of Gold and a heart of God. You carry both, you are one that genuinely celebrates everyone, you are the one that behind your “I am so happy for you” is pure and real. Everyone might say it but not everyone mean it but somehow I find you to be so different. Your intentions are pure and I love this about you. I could be around you all day, sit and talk to you all day and nothing unedifying comes out of your mouth. God is pleased! I am not saying you are perfect but you carry many of God’s characteristics, to know you is to LOVE you. Thank you for being consistent in my life. I say to you continue to grow in life and in God, God has not forgotten about you, sooner than later He is going to fulfill every hearts desire, every concern, every prayer request etc. In this season of your life, DON’T stop learning and growing, allow this season to birth out of you the anointing you carry on the inside that is designed to WIN souls, that is design to encourage individuals to hold on, that is design to pour into other Women of all ages. You will be so successful in this lifetime, the half has not been told, patient in God will be of great importance and when His timing manifests every promise in your life, everyone you celebrated will be there to celebrate you. You are a GLORY CARRIER! Your heart tells a story that know one can take away from you and I am excited to see you in this next SHIFT. LIVE Sis, WIN Sis, Grow Sis, DO NOT SETTLE Sis, DO NOT get IMPATIENT Sis, your TIME is not NEXT, your TURN is NOW. I Love You so much!

Lachema – Every one thinks you are the shy one, but I am actually the one that is shy. There was a season of my life I used my Daddy and Mommy issues as being shy but I knew God was calling me to a place of healing so that I can operate in my fullest potential and do what He has called me to do. Big Sis, I believe God is calling you to a place of healing and wholeness. God cannot and will not fulfill our hearts desires until we be honest with ourselves and say we need help. He will not allow us to walk in our NEXT until we deal with our NOW. The reality is we all suffered with low self-esteem, insecurities, fear, doubt, worry, frustrations etc. but we must allow God to use it for His Good. Big Sis, be encouraged, before God comes back you will REAP, you will walk into your DESTINED and DESIRED place and before the dust settles God is going to make you SMILE. God is going to make GOOD on His Promises concerning you. You can not escape the assignment in you, You can not escape the anointing in you, you too is destined for greatness, you have so much in you that God wants to come forth and use for His Glory. This process you face, go through it, allow God to deal with everything you worry about, everything you fear, everything you desire, even everything you want and EVERYthing you need. It’s coming Big Sis, in this next season know that you will LIVE to see it HAPPEN. I Love You!

Tanika & Todd – There are so many others I could have chosen that our Mom adopted as a daughter and a Son. However; your conversations with her are unimaginable and they do not compare to the trust she placed in your hands and in your heart. Know one could have carried such a weighty assignment like you and Todd. I know you both feel cheated, I know there are still wonders and what ifs. But I had to learn God’s plan is so strategic and He really does not make mistakes. Your baby touched who he needed to touch in that short time lived. Mommy is not here to say Thank You and I do not know if anyone else has ever thanked you but I am the one that come back to say Thank you. You loved my nephew like your own. Through the years our families may not gather as much as we did in the beginning but deep down inside we will always be FAMILY. There is nothing anyone can tell me about you, Todd, Shakia, TJ and Lariah. WE are FOREVER STUCK in this walk for a lifetime through the good, bad, ugly and indifferent. I am rooting for you all! I say to you Big Sis and Big Bro, God has not forgotten about you both, God has not forgotten about the tears you’ve cried, God has not forgotten about the Prayers you’ve prayed, God has not even forgotten about the Praises you have given Him even when the weight of the hurt, frustration, lies, talks etc. penetrated your hearts. YOU WILL WIN! Hold on to what you know is TRUE, hold on to what you know is NOBLE, hold on to what you know is JUST, hold on to what you know is PURE, hold on to what you know is LOVELY, hold on to what you know is of a GOOD REPORT, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy, mediate on these things, These things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me (GOD), these do, and the God of PEACE will be with you (Philippians 4:8). Protect your PEACE! I do not care who you need to protect it from, just protect it. Todd, Thank you! Man of God, keep pressing forward and continue to lead your family the way you have been. God is so strategic, this is the season He fulfills every promise He has promised you and your family. You worried, you cried etc. but even in that it didn’t stop you, your prayers or your praise. Know that God hasn’t forgotten about what He has promised you concerning your children, every last one of them will be successful, to the point of them telling you to come off your job and take note of this, you coming off your job means your assignment to carry the word God has placed in your belly can be fulfilled. You have a word for this next generation. You too will reap if you faint not. I Love you both immensely.

Many of you are entering into a season called YES. All God ever wanted was your YES. One of the best things I have done is when I wholeheartedly said YES to God. Know that the RAIN is worth the PAIN!! WALK IT OUT Family, let the old thing go so that the new thing can LIVE. I know some times what you see does not match what you heard. It don’t look like what God said. But WATCH GOD! You must hold on to what you heard until it matches what you see. Family, I believe in each one of you, we will be products of our parent’s prayers, we will be what others said we wouldn’t. I say to you all GROW UP, Grow in life, Grow in God, Grow in our relationship, Grow in knowledge, just simply GROW and don’t stop growing. Despite what others have said and or is saying WE WILL WIN.

Know that I am done searching for others to fill voids but through the good, bad, ugly or indifferent I’ll never be done with any of YOU. God gave me you all and I will cherish every moment with you, even the ones I have and had to grow up in.

What To Do, When You Don’t Know What To

Today is Monday, July 27, 2020. Monday’s are usually a drag because we’ve Churched hard the day before but now it seems as though days have been running into one another that I don’t know Saturday from Sunday and Sunday from Monday etc. I woke up somewhere around 6:20am desperately just wanting to go upstairs in my office and lay out before God for the countless individuals whose been weary, frustrated, angry, doubtful, fearful, mentally drained, uncertain, suffering with anxiety, suffering with mental health etc. Just simply not knowing what is happening and what is coming next. They’re in a fight of their life and just feel like giving up, it’s not always financial, some people just want PEACE of MIND. Anyways, it didn’t pan out that way as my niece woke up also. I played Todd Galbreth worship music and attended to her. I went back to my bedroom after so long and told my husband I was going to pray so that he can watch after our niece. It still didn’t pan out that way because I couldn’t find the words to say as I became tired in the presence of God, I just begin to think loudly how consuming, how draining, how frustrating, how fearful, how trying some this season has been for so many, including myself, mean while others are tasked with encouraging individuals that it will be alright when they aren’t too sure themselves anymore. So the only thing I could gather is God, Where Are You? God, Your People Need You! As I remembered “Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. 27 Now He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because He makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God” (Romans 8:26-27 NKJV).

You ever just wonder why good things happen to bad people and why bad things happen to good people? What are they doing that we as Children of God aren’t? We certainly aren’t perfect people but most of us are a people that sincerely Love God and others, we give, we tithe, we serve, we forgive, we obey, we push, we are patient etc. we just simply try to do what is RIGHT and it seems like the more we try to do what is RIGHT, the harder the FIGHT!

WHAT TO DO!!

Times are different, we are living in times where every man seem to do what is right in his/her own eyes (See Judges 17:6 NKJV). Being in a out of the church all my life has taught me one thing PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING. Even when life is unfair. God never leads us to dry wells. I know you’ve been waiting on God to show you His hand, to direct you, to turn somethings around for you and it seems like the closer you get, the further you get knocked back down and the struggle gets more and more severe. You’ve danced about it, you’ve shouted about it, you’ve prayed about it, you’ve fast about it, you’ve even received prophecy and confirmation about it but yet and still nothing has shifted for you. And all you can think is WHERE IS GOD? This can’t be the life in Jeremiah 29:11, so many have already doubted His very existence, however; at times you want to believe what others think but in all your stinking thinking the facts remain there is way too much evidence to start doubting God right now. But yet you become tired, you become emotionally and mentally drained, you become so heart broken, discouraged and simply tired of pressing.

WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!

God shared with me in that moment that procrastination has hit the body of Christ in a huge way, God said I can’t do anything my people won’t allow me to do. It is I that gives the power to get wealth (Deuteronomy 8:18 NKJV). However; many have left things undone, including Books, Business Plans, Loan Paper work, Degrees, Phone Call Connections, Business Licenses, Unforgiveness, Heart Issues etc. If you want it go after IT and get rid of IT, this is the season of FULFILLED PROPHECY, things God have promised you in years past will be manifested in this season provided you do your part. You will PROSPER IN THIS PANDEMIC! It came so that you would have time to get your business straight. What did you handle while in Quarantine? Did you finish any thing you’ve started? The fact of the matter is we look at what we SEE vs. what God SAID. So we START and STOP and we give it to Him and take it back. God told me one day “Finish What You’ve Started” you’re not waiting on me I’m waiting on you. Which led into a blog (Check it out). If you go back to school I’ll pave the way and He did. I have an Undergraduate, Masters, and working on my Doctorate Degree. Can you imagine what finishing something you’ve started that God has equipped you do would bring?

2020 wasn’t suppose to go as such, CHILE….we are suppose to be experiencing double but yet many of us find ourselves in a season that our Faith is being severely TESTED. In this season of Testing, Trial, Tribulation, Turmoil, Trouble etc. What if the very TEST, TRIAL, TRIBULATION, TURMOIL, TROUBLE we face is the very thing that God will use to get us to DOUBLE. The world is impatient, don’t you become impatient because you feel like you can no longer handle the TEST, the test came to Position, Prepare, and Prosper you. HOLD ON My Sister, HOLD ON My Brother, I know there are many fancy Cliches out there about what God is getting ready to do in this moment of UNCERTAINTY, I do not have one but what I can tell you is ⬇️

I Just Don’t Believe God Brought You This FAR to LEAVE YOU!

If you believe it, find you a cute picture, place this on it “I Just Don’t Believe God Would Bring Me This Far To Leave Me” and Post it on your Social Media Handles! I will enter you into a drawing for a chance to win a $100 Gift Card, so of course I need proof.

What To Do, When You Don’t Know What To Do! Your HOLDING ON is saving someone’s life, someone somewhere is depending on you to whether this next TEST. We’ve all been in a place of not knowing What To Do, but isn’t that just like God to use these UNCERTAIN times that do not make any sense to make a MIRACLE. He’s BIG just like that! He’s GOOD just like that! He’s God just like that!

LIFE after the LOSS

Ministry without Mommy

Psalms 27:10 NKJV “When my Father and my Mother forsake me, then the Lord will take care of me.”

How would anyone know how you feel if they never had your experiences? You don’t really know the effect LOSS has on anyone, we’re so accustomed to hiding our feelings, we’re always “I’m good” or “Blessed and highly favored” that we never express how we really feel about LOSS or about LIFE. Christendom has taught us to SAVE FACE, it’s not alright to tell the Church listen, i.e. I’m saved and single but, I’m hot and horny, I’m pissed off and I’m angry, I like married men, I like women and men, I’m just not okay and I NEED HELP. This is why the Church even in being a hospital for the sick many are still sadly dying because we were never able to tell the truth and there hasn’t been anyone that Mothered and Fathered us long enough to tap into the real issues we go through in life. I found out even in all our Gifts, Talents, and Spirituality if we never go back in the past and deal with our ISSUES, we will never be able to really help the SICK in our Churches. Something will always be missing and we will never operate in our fullest potential because of issues that were left UNHEALED, UNTOUCHED, and SUPPRESSED.

Side Bar: It’s okay to not be okay! It’s okay to talk to someone professional outside of your circle. Mental health is something the Church will not talk about but we are half way through the year of 2020 and today mental health is realer than it has ever been.

I know at times being BROKEN is more comfortable than being HEALED, because we’ve sat BROKEN for so long in a number of areas that it’s comfortable now. WAIT! I sat BROKEN for so long and being BROKEN was more COMFORTABLE to me. But when God turns your world upside down and BREAKS you to BLESS you and CHALLENGES you to CHANGE you, He does it in a way to make you WHOLE and completely HEALED.

Not having both my biological parents in the home, not sharing the same last name as my younger siblings, being told my father wasn’t really my Father, etc. it may be minor to you but these are some things that I never talked about and here I go into my adulthood with the same teenage issues that I never sat down and talked about. What happens when Mommy is gone, Daddy is dead (the biological one) and there is know one to answer the questions that you want to ask?

I started preaching April 21, 2002 licensed and ordained 2 times (I do have a license). I can honestly say I preached many places from North Carolina to New York. Mommy was just about at every engagement. I knew God was really using me when I would look over at Mommy and she would nod her head, that was my signal to keep doing what I was doing. Even in the days I served and someone else preached, for some reason Mommy loved to see me in my all white nurses uniform serving because I never preached or served out of flesh, those are the moments that taught me to pray. I would once again look over at Mommy and this time she would either smile or nod her head, which let me know you’re doing a good job daughter. Those moments were never taken for granted, they taught me humility and I always questioned what could I do better. I wasn’t PERFECT in the POSITION but the PROCESS PERFECTED the PURPOSE of what I had to endure to get where I am now. MINISTRY WITH MOMMY was a blessing indeed. I can remember traveling to New York to preach at 2 churches and while at the 2nd service Mommy told me don’t take an offering from them, sow it back into them. A HUMBLING MOMENT! I knew Mommy had my best interest at heart and I trusted the God in her enough to obey her instructions. Now Mommy is gone and though the pain never leaves, however; it does get easier to deal with. MINISTRY WITHOUT MOMMY has been rough. For many years I fought God and those around me, I was angry with God, preaching was now something I questioned because the person that supported me was no longer around to help me carry and birth what I possessed. I was hurt by the mere fact that I thought Mommy would get better with time, this broken place I found myself in, I allowed my hurts to hurt others, I did not handle people well, I sunk deeper and deeper into depression and dislike for others.

So I was left with questions with no answers and what if’s are merely dreams left unfulfilled, but I love how God takes what was once BROKEN and He BLESSES You, He BREAKS You, and then He gives you to the people (Matthew 26:26).

Daddy is Dead

My latest blog touched many lives, I just write as God leads me, after the positive feedback I thought I was good, I was like yes I’ve told the truth and I dealt with all I needed to deal with, sadly so God said to me no you haven’t, He showed me where I had suppressed my hurt and what society calls “Daddy Issues.” The first thing many will think is that I married my husband because of that very fact, we’re being honest right? Honestly, I didn’t, I did not like Mark Sr. at first, but it was something about him that drew me to him and I didn’t see a Dad in him, I saw pain and I wanted to know where it came from. One of my first instincts was to COVER HIM IN PRAYER (I will share our story in another blog) and let’s just say the rest is history, WE’RE MARRIED TODAY! So God showed me in prayer I had to deal with my daddy issues. These last few months has been rough, from dealing with anxiety, to reliving the loss of my Mom, to being in a pandemic, and yet still having to be STRONG and KEEP IT TOGETHER. I had to really tell myself it’s okay to not be okay, this is what’s wrong with the Body of Christ, we do too much pretending and we never just simply be honest and say I have the Holy Ghost but I have HEART ISSUES. So there were only 3 people God brought before me to share the issue with that I needed to deal with so they could cover me in prayer, if I needed them I knew I could go to them but God had me in these last 2 months, the month of May and June to be exact deal with this issue alone. I was in the fight of my life, I did more crying than I had in a long time, I battled mentally and emotionally. I was on a roller coaster ride, headache after headache, angry and upset, praying and asking God why, but I had to deal with it and FORGIVE.

Sidebar: I realized DADDY ISSUES and MOMMY ISSUES are prevalent in our communities, there are many my age, younger, and older that are dealing with the mere fact they are facing a Daddy Issue or Mommy Issue. It gets deeper when you have to deal with both, it gets deeper when there are questions left unanswered. I suffered in silence for years but I had to grab a halt in God and LIVE with reality unless I’ll still be searching for someone to fill the void and get hurt every time they do not mount up to the qualities of whom your searching to see in them. More damage, more pain, and more disappointment added on to SEARCHING but not SEEING.

Dad, Who Just Simply Stepped Up

My Dad whose been in my life since I was a baby, He’s ALL I KNOW. September 2012 My older Siblings and I buried our biological Father. But our Dad stepped up long before, ALL of my first came from him, though there were some difficult moments and things I wish I’ve known before hand, He still can’t be REPLACED. Some years ago I shared with my Dad how hurt I was because he didn’t give me his last name, He said he didn’t know I wanted him to and was very apologetic, this was one reason why it was so easy for me to really hurt when I was told he wasn’t my real father, because I didn’t share their last name. I don’t care how minor someone may think pain runs, it runs deep if you never face reality and deal with it. Certainly, I would have never dealt with it if I didn’t share my heart with my Dad, with God, and those that Mother and Mentor me now.

My Pastor preached a message a few years ago “Lord Deal With My Issues” this is when it begin to resonate in me that I had many PAST and PRESENT issues I needed to deal with. I am pleading with everyone that would read this blog and face what I had to, similar, or just ISSUES. DEAL WITH IT! You are stronger than you think, God saw me through one of the worst seasons of my life “DEALING WITH MY ISSUES” and He will see you through it also, I can’t tell you, you just have to see FREEDOM on ME. If you need to FORGIVE, Forgive and find FREEDOM in FORGIVING. I DID!!

My Past, Present, and Future Self

Life as I knew it wasn’t all good and it wasn’t all bad to say the least. 2019 was a major lesson about Family, Friends, Relationships, and Myself. For many reasons God had Me in a Frustrated Season. From the beginning of July until December I stayed out of Church, I stayed home and had My mind set on Me never attending Church again, I just promised Myself I will never leave God. I stayed home, Prayed, Fasted, Studied, etc. in that time God begin to show Me MYSELF. One thing God stressed to Me was I am not judging everyone together, I am judging everyone separately, it’s going to matter what you do to others as well as what others do to you. God begin to really put the pieces of my life BACK TOGETHER, He begin to force Me to GROW UP in Life and in Him, He begin to dig deep within from past Hurts, Setbacks, Regrets, Frustrations, Worries, Doubts, Fears, and forced Me to deal with it ALL. It’s one thing to be beautiful on the outside but if the inside is MESSED UP then yeah you (We, I) ain’t going nowhere fast. You’ll (We’ll, I’ll) be going through the motions and around in circles until You (We, I) be Honest with our Past and Present Self and admit I can’t do this alone anymore, I need to be HEALED, I need to be WHOLE, I need HELP Lord. When we are this Honest with ourselves, then we (I) can begin to really LIVE Life how God intended for us (Me) too.

LET’S DIVE DEEPER!

THIS IS HOW I GOT HERE!

I am Introverted and Shy, if you really do not know Me you’ll never know, I can be Moody at times and I will chose a good book, movie, or writing over hanging out with Family and Friends but I Love Hard and do enjoy the moments that are taking to spend with them. I like to have fun when I do, I am silly, sensitive, and very playful. Anything I do I am always including God in it, even if I am playing games with My Nieces, having a talk with My Husband, at work and acting crazy with my Co-workers or Students some way God is going to be in the mix of it. I am very Forgiving, I give people chance after chance after chance, I see the GOOD in EVERYONE I don’t care what I see in you or what you’ve done to Me, I can’t hold grudges, I may have felt a way in My Heart but God never allows me to stay there, He has never allowed Me to get away with anything, even when I left Him and My ways didn’t please Him, the Holy Ghost has been real in Me from the beginning of receiving it under the tutelage of My Late Bishop. Therefore, I lived a Holy life, until I decided I needed to Pretend and Lie to be cool, I wanted to Experience what everyone else in the Church was Experiencing because they were living, God didn’t punish them, they didn’t struggle, they got away with what they was doing, at least that’s what it looked like. So deep within I figured I can straddle the fence also. God always tugged on My Heart, Conviction has always Set In, but I begin to suppress it at least tried to, I stopped Studying and Praying as I did when I first got Saved, but the Teachings, the Word of God and Salvation still lived within Me, there was always a tug to do RIGHT and be SET APART, I still Encouraged, Uplifted, Spoke Life into Many, Prayed For, Preached, Listened, Gave Advice, even Prophesied on occassions, but I figured I matters well join the crowd. Deep within when many would call themselves “TAPPING IN” I would be like WOW they are not Praying, they are not hearing from God which almost made me believe there was no God but I knew better than that. I felt that way because I had individuals try to Prophesy to Me what I lied about, you ain’t “TAPPED IN” you tried to play on My emotions and the whole time I am looking like WHERE IS THIS GOD you and I Preach about. I just knew these same individuals that had the “TITLE” that had the “ANOINTING” also didn’t have a PRAYER LIFE, they were just TALENTED which was mistaken for the Anointing. The sad TRUTH is know one told these individuals the Truth, know one sat them down and Fathered, Mothered, or Mentored them, they were allowed to operate because they drew a crowd, collected a large offering, and sort after people they knew STRUGGLED emotionally. So I never understood why would God place me in such an atmosphere, I not knowing at the time because I was confident-less I had the POWER to CHANGE it but I COVERED it. What I’ve seen in Church growing up was Miracles, Signs, Wonders, and Mess. I still see today the same without the Miracles, Signs, and Wonders. It’s not say there is no God, it’s to say Matthew 17:21 & 2 Chronicles 7:14 must be exhibited or we will be a people in Church going through the motions with no real NOTHING except Recycled Members, Performances and Shouting over Mess that we created, swept under the rug, and never dealt with. We don’t properly deal with our Issues, we don’t Communicate with one another, and we’re to Cliquish and Territorial etc. We want a platform with no CHANGE.

I’LL KEEP GOING!

Young people have always looked up and gravitated to Me, I always felt I needed to be to them what others couldn’t and didn’t want to, on one hand I had a standard and stuck to it and on the other hand I told others what they wanted to hear and pretended to be what others wanted Me to be because they were in it. I’M JUST BEING HONEST! I am/was a Leader to the Youth, they Respected Me until I had to Correct them, I was placed in a position where I had to chose to do what’s RIGHT or to do what they LIKED. I was ridiculed, they walked around not speaking to Me because I didn’t allow them to become familiar with Me and they were allowed to by the adults that was suppose to be Leading them before Me. It Broke Me, it Hurt Me, it Discouraged Me, I Preached in a place they didn’t received Me in, I RAN and I KEPT RUNNING and had to come back to Preach in this same place and this time the Leaders didn’t receive Me all because I Corrected the Youth. WHERE WAS THIS GOD is all I thought of. This was suppose to be someone who Mothered Me Spiritually, the blind side was I never took it to God in Prayer, I just expected Him to rescue Me with LACK OF COMMUNICATION.

PAUSE!

God sometimes places us in situations to drive us TO HIM not FROM HIM! We can’t expect God to INTERVENE if we NEVER INSTRUCT Him to.

As I fore mentioned I am introverted and Shy and at times I can be Moody but coming up being ordained to Preach at an early age, Serving, a Youth Leader, Youth Choir Director/Member, Praise and Worship Leader, etc. I was taught to operate in Excellence, what I did I knew I had to represent God and My Leaders. I am a Perfectionist, I operated and served on a level that when absent caused individuals to question when would I be returning. Operating on that level causes you to have to interact with people no matter what they deal with or how they treat you. From past Experiences with people I developed a LACK of TRUST, A WALL, PRIDE, etc. Oh I wasn’t at all perfect but many seen the Heart I possessed and still do and took advantage of it. I begin to see everyone the same, I placed everyone in the same category, even if I gave them a chance, I knew and expected sooner than later they would show Me otherwise. In this state some relationships I messed up, I lashed out, I didn’t know My place in peoples lives, and I avoided some people instead of taking what I saw in PRAYER and COMMUNICATING it was a PROTECTIVE magnesium and some was what I expected and what I picked up from the beginning. What I saw/see in people and what I picked/pick up is usually what was/is, during those times God allowed Me to see it but not to Shut Down, not to Judge, not Talk, not to Build a Wall, not even to Isolate Myself but to PRAY, SOMETHING I NOW GET IN 2020. I was blinded by past Experiences and also desperate to have someone to call “Friend” “Sis” Bro” “Auntie” “Mom” etc. that I easily let people in, even in seeing what I knew was true, I was in Search for the REAL, I’ve seen and Experienced way too many of the FAKES. I caused it on Myself, mind you I wanted to please people so I’ll FIT IN instead of being SET APART I made those that were ASSIGNMENTS, ASSETS, and gave them ACCESS to Me in ways they should have never been able to reach Me which made it easy for them to MISTREAT ME, so I missed the MARK, and they were allowed to MISHANDLE Me. I cared too much of what others thought of Me. When you’re in a state of operating out of HURTS, BROKENNESS, ANGER, FRUSTRATION, etc. you can not fully function and operate in the capacity God called you to and you will never properly and fully hear God. Some of us just operate out of GIFTING & TALENT but God needed/s to know He can TRUST you (Us, Me) especially with the BROKEN. So I operated this way for Years, Preaching, Serving, Mentoring, Leading, and Ministering to individuals BROKEN, helping them get Free and know one can see how MESSED UP I was on the INSIDE, how Hurt, Used, and Abused I felt, they can only see how Pretty I was/am to be Dark Skinned (didn’t get that) and how Nice I Dressed/Dress.

When I begin to Experience LOSS, my heart begin to Break (more so felt what is God saying), Compassion begin to SET IN, I started to Change the way I saw Life, Change My Heart, and Change who I became. I wanted more than anything to HEAL properly, not be taken ADVANTAGE of and be MISHANDLED, I wanted to now GROW UP in life and in God. But I was STUCK and it seemed like everyone (MOSTLY) old and new proved to be what I picked up in the beginning. From 2012 to 2019 I found myself in a whirl wind, trying to HEAL but yet SEARCHING, trying to HEAL but I couldn’t TRUST people, trying to HEAL and served under Pastors that I thought can Help Me, I was Searching but nothing, I KEPT RUNNING (Blog post or Sermon for another time) still found Myself feeling Empty and Unsafe all while being pulled to Change and Grow up. I didn’t TRUST enough to let my guard down so even in attending Church I felt Unsafe I don’t care where I went. Still trying to HEAL, but Experiencing the Territorial Spirits and Lies meanwhile wondering where are the Prayer Warriors, where are the ones that’s DISCERNING I am just here to HEAL, I have a word on my life and I need to HEAL so I can give Birth. I found Myself in a place of still Building Walls, Shutting Down, still not Trusting, Isolating Myself because by now in My Life when I don’t feel Safe I Shut Down, I Retreat to Isolation, I see everyone the same, I go into Quiet Mood, and just being alone it’s Safe for me this way, at least I thought it was, it was the way I COPED but it was really UNHEALTHY.

LET’S GO BACK!

During the process of losing My Mom in 2012 I battled Depression, Suicide, Hair Loss, Weight Gain, I was Emotionally Damaged, I Felt Alone, I Experienced Anxiety, the enemy would always tell me your next and I listened, but at the same time I was Scared, there were times I would stay up all night Scared to go to sleep. But I wanted so badly to HEAL, CHANGE, BE FREE, and not LIVE Life on EDGE. I just always felt like had I not ventured out in Life I wouldn’t have gotten off of My post and My Mom would still be here. As I fore mentioned all the loss taught me Compassion, God already gave me a huge Heart, I became even more Sensitive to people, I wanted/want everyone to get alone, I asked God, why am I always the one going back to make it right, He replied; because you’re the one with the Holy Ghost. I just wanted to get rid of all the extras that came with Life and not Obeying God but I knew I had to first HEAL and get FREE from people and their opinions of Me.

God told me DELIVERANCE will come out of My OBEDIENCE. I had to become CONSISTENT in my WALK, in My Life, and with People.

SIDEBAR!

I remember going to a service at My Best Friend church years ago and the guest Preacher there that day came to Me and said God said for you to wear all BLACK you can’t dress like this anymore, he didn’t DISCERN, he didn’t have a PRAYER Life, his wife looked old and here I am this Pretty Dark Skinned single young woman and he was mesmerized, he tried to play on My Emotions, he thought I was Naive in the Spirit Realm, He didn’t TAP IN, I had just come out of a season of depression and all I wore was BLACK. What he didn’t know was I was young but I been in this FIGHT a long time, although in a Search to find Me, although WARRING with Me, Although RUNNING and FIGHTING I still knew the voice of God, that couldn’t be taken away from Me. So yeah let’s add the countless Pastors that wanted to get Me in their bed so bad by coming on to Me and trying to play on My Emotions. Needless to say I was LOYAL, I never over stepped My boundaries, if you was a Father, Uncle, Bro, or Nephew to Me I took it to Heart and I played My part and stayed in My lane. There were crushes but they were just that crushes and never to be acted upon, I knew to stay in My lane.

PICKING UP!

So My life was a Whirl Wind, a Roller Coaster, I was Searching not only for HEALING but also LOVE. So many of the things I Experienced, Covered, was told to Me in heated arguments, the Insecurities, the Low Self-esteem, Lack of Confidence, the family that didn’t/don’t remember where we came from and was to good for Me to be around, the Rumors and Lies that came from people that share the same blood, the Expectations I placed on people especially My Older Siblings and My Aunts when My Mom passed I sought after Validation from them, what they said mattered most to Me, I wanted them to be proud of Me, but I never heard it from the ones I expected it from, I just always thought many of them saw Me as NOTHING and maybe I still do think it but My Present and Future Self do not care anymore. I now know who I am in God, but before I get that far ahead. I Searched and Searched, Church wasn’t it, Relationships wasn’t it, being Loyal wasn’t enough, play Aunties and Sis wasn’t it, buying Friendships wasn’t it, the Giver in Me wasn’t enough, the Encourager and Uplifter in Me wasn’t enough, Dressing up wasn’t it, Sowing wasn’t it, hearing I am Proud of You from others wasn’t it, Marriage wasn’t even it, don’t get Me wrong My Husband is the best Man I could have ever asked for but something was still MISSING. I needed GOD for REAL, I needed to be FREE for REAL, I needed to go back into the place of PRAYER and stay at the feet of Jesus. After staying out of Church and allowing God to deal with all of Me, one Sunday God told Me to go back, in my mind I was going back but know one better not say a thing to Me, I want no hugs, I will just speak and keep moving, when Church is out I will leave, that was My mindset, God has not released Me from the Ministry (you know how we talk) so this time I couldn’t RUN and Lord knows in my lifetime I KEPT RUNNING, and never wanted to face My GIANTS head on, But I had to be OBEDIENT remember it was tied to My DELIVERANCE. THE RIGHT WAY to handle things was and is PRAYER and now I GOT IT. When you are desperate to be all God has called you to be, when you no longer want to FIT IN, you no longer want to PLEASE people, you find yourself in a SURRENDER POSTURE, in this Frustrated Season OBEDIENCE, CONSISTENCY, and PATIENCE was critical to My DELIVERANCE. So I went back and displayed this unapproachable behavior calling it God all because know one reached out to Me during the time of staying out of Church, but the fact remains God wanted to deal with all of ME, My Past and My Present Self. Sometimes God will ISOLATE you to REVEAL YOU to YOU. I was back going to Bible Study, Prayer, Services etc. one day after Prayer I got to express to some of the Women that God allowed to be there…

PAUSE!

Before I continue, many of you that will read this blog, I was released to write it first and foremost, secondly, Many of you know what Church I attend now and back than, most if not all of what I am writing My Pastor knows of, so before you let the enemy of your soul use you to screenshot this blog SHE KNOWS! PICK YOUR FACE UP and I Pray you to get FREE as I have.

LET’S CONTINUE!

So I expressed how I felt after Prayer to some of the Women that God allowed to be there in that moment. On My way home God spoke to Me and told Me I didn’t allow them to reach out because you would have said something that would have altered your DELIVERANCE all because you was too consumed by your feelings and you would still be apologizing to this day. I immediately begin to cry out to God, I called My Big Sister and three other people and told them what God had just spoke to Me. From that day I told God if you never Change the Situation, just Change how I view the Situation. Change My Outlook, Change My Heart, Change My Perspective, I am not a mean person and I can’t operate like this. The next morning in prayer God told Me it matters how you treat people and it matters how people treat you, I will judge individually. I knew I had to spend time with God because at His feet there are Instructions, Strategies, and Direction that it’s imperative you (We, I) OBEY. So now here I am in this Process, being Processed, Purged, Gutted, Healed, Whole, being Real with My Past and Present Self, God has started AGAIN putting the pieces of My LIFE BACK TOGETHER, I can’t say it’s COMFORTABLE, it’s very UNCOMFORTABLE but so NECESSARY. In this Season, God has even taken me off Social Media not a deactivation either, a downright DELETE it because I couldn’t/can’t handle it. This is the result of asking God to deal with all of Me, this is the result of being PURIFIED, PURGED, and PROCESSED. I don’t get away with anything, I just can’t live any kind of way, I seek after being a better, Sister, Friend, Mother, Mentor, Wife, Daughter, Member and you sincerely Learn to Submit and be Accountable all over again under Leadership TRUSTING that God knows exactly what He’s doing and where He has Me. Trusting that this time IT’S SAFE, not perfect but SAFE. I feel as though and was taught to take care of Leadership, there is nothing Leadership should ever have to worry about especially since we are always saying God sent us there. Leaders are not PERFECT and that was My mistake all these years, however; if God Anoints you to see the flaws in your Leader He’s showing you and trusting you so that you can PRAY and NOTHING ELSE, not to Correct, not to Judge, not to Tare Down, not to Ridicule, definitely not Talk and Certainly not to make Subliminal Social Media Statues. You are too COVER and PROTECT the Man and Woman of God. I don’t care what they do, how they act, how they treat you. TAKE THEM TO GOD IN PRAYER…

LET’S BACK TRACK!

Going back to Church wasn’t at all easy, again I found Myself being unapproachable to people but that didn’t last long. Remember, God Corrected Me, so now I go from being unapproachable and unwelcoming to being approachable and welcoming, after all My OBEDIENCE, CONSISTENCY, and PATIENCE is tied to My DELIVERANCE. I went from sitting in the back to now sitting closer to the front (if you ask Me I’d thought I was bipolar) but it’s a PURIFYING PROCESS one that I am willing to WALK OUT completely. One fourth Sunday this year I’ll never forget it, I came in ready we were in Intercessory Prayer and I began to Pray and cry out to God, once I told God “I AM AVAILABLE” I started Purging and hit the floor. That Sunday was unexplainable to say the least, in that service God dealt with ME. He had 2 individuals that COVERED Me in that Moment of DELIVERANCE and Release. I HAVEN’T BEEN THE SAME SENSE. I found Myself going back making things right with people that I didn’t do anything to and some I did. I will say this, some people that wronged you will NEVER come back to you, when you are SET APART, CHOSEN, and just simply want to do what’s RIGHT, everyday your POSTURE Changes, and everyday your PRAYER Changes to Lord not My Will but Your Will be done, Search My Heart, Forgive Me, etc. I had to apologize to My Leaders, although me staying out of Church was a Necessary Move, I still wasn’t Accountable. I am sure God revealed to her eventually but God made her watchmen of My Soul. I couldn’t Submit to My Boss and not My Leaders who Prays for Me. And with open Arms She and He welcomed Me back, Poured into Me, and Mothers Me just like her own. I am not naive to some facts, God made me OBSERVANT but I mistaken it and VENT when PRAYER should have been but is now the USED RESPONSE God has placed in Me. When I finally gave God Permission to do what He Desired and what He’s been waiting to do in Me, I stopped looking for Apologizes, Validation, Expectations, etc. I now know My place in people lives. God is in TOTAL and COMPLETE CONTROL, so much so that what I would usually VENT and TALK about I take into PRAYER, I have to Seek God about what to Read, should I watch TV, can I go Here and There. I was so use to supporting people that now God has me in a place of you can’t go everywhere in this Season you’re too open and vulnerable to the attacks of the enemy.

Let me just say this Church isn’t the only place I Experienced My Hurts, I also went through in School, on Jobs etc. I had one Boss tell me type this paper up for me in 15 minutes if not your FIRED, I laughed thinking she was joking but she wasn’t joking whatsoever. I had Bosses who tried to use their Authority to Scare Me. I experienced Hurts in different atmospheres but Church was the place I saw the Biggest demons and Experienced the Deepest Hurts but yet it was suppose to be SAFE. What I Learned is NOTHING should have ever CHANGED My POSTURE. What I carried was PAINFUL, as I am HEALING, I had to and have Learned to FULLY Trust God, I allowed Him to dig DEEP, things I never talked about, things that I suppressed He brought it back to My Remembrance and forced Me to deal with it, I am talking about being FREE and WHOLE for REAL. 2020 has been thus far months of DELIVERANCE, FREEDOM, WHOLENESS, etc. It has been UNCOMFORTABLE but NECESSARY. I am beginning to Experience God in a NEW way, I have gotten My ZEAL Back, I am beginning to get My FIRE Back, I don’t operate out of EMOTION, I Feel FREE in My Spirit. We TALK way too much, I CARED way too much, this time around Me CARING is on the level of God, I want His Heart. I CARRIED way too much, We LIE to OURSELVES and We NEVER Go BACK and REPENT. To this day I find Myself Repenting, I NEVER want to be in that DARK place I was in. I VOWED to continue to grow in GOD and in LIFE, the SAFEST place in the WHOLE WIDE WORLD is in the WILL OF GOD.

LAST STORY!

Years ago I went to an event, I got sick and came home early. This Pastor called My Mom and told her God showed her Me laid up that night in a hotel with a Man. My Mom kindly told her, My daughter is home and in bed and hung up the phone.

I WISH I COULD, BUT I CAN’T MAKE THIS STUFF UP. I am just glad even in all I had to Experience, I still knew God for Me. The Teachings I received was taught out of PURITY and LOVE for the people of God.

The next time I operate in Ministry it definitely will not be from a BROKEN PLACE. I was only able to PREACH with CONFIRMATION because I REALLY sort the Lord for a Word to give to His people. I take it serious and one thing I don’t play with is SOULS. I just knew that the SOULS assigned to Me wouldn’t be FREE until I got FREE.

That goes for You too, The SOULS that are ASSIGNED to YOU, are you just going to let them DIE in the wilderness? Because you’re too PRIDEFUL, STUBBORN, and HARD HEADED to allow God to deal with all of YOU. I don’t care if I have to Purge every Sunday, God BURN IT AWAY is My CONFESSION.

This is MY TRUTH! This is only some of MY PAST & PRESENT SELF.

MY FUTURE SELF stands on Jeremiah 29:11 & Philippians 1:6. God has showed Me a glimpse, in this New Season all He wants Me to do is TRUST HIM.

FINISH What You’ve STARTED

Do you remember growing up? You wanting to become a Doctor, Lawyer, Teacher, Fashion Designer, Model, Journalist, News Anchor, Judge, Police Officer, City Council, Nurse, etc. We prepare our whole lives for this moment, we become excited after we graduation because we couldn’t wait to grow up and make a difference in the lives of others or just simply wanting to get grown and do things on our own. We go to college, even study what we want to become. Then LIFE happens and so much time is WASTED. We GIVE UP on the DESIRE, we LOSE Hope of ever BECOMING, we LOSE PASSION and we JUST STOP; STOP PRESSING, STOP PURSUING, STOP LIVING, STOP FOCUSING, STOP DREAMING, and we’re SETTLED and CONTENT in the place we’re in. Many of us never return back to pursue the very thing that has God called us to. We seem to have so many individuals around us but know one that taps into OUR GIFTING PLACE and PUSHES us to FINISH the very thing we’ve STARTED.

PAUSE: Don’t you know be it Church or Work, the people that’s assigned to you will stay in the SHAPE they’re in until you FINISH WHAT YOU’VE STARTED?

Gifting are not only for the individuals in the Church. Let me tell you a story about Me…. Losing My Mom was heart breaking and still is. I searched for someone to fill the void (NOT TAKE HER PLACE) there were and are many things in life I am still unsure about so I’ve ignored the instruction many prophets told me. God said, I would Mother many but I told God how can I Mother these young people, whose going to Mother me? Not seeing God have already equipped me, I was looking for something that was never meant to be had I been Mothered and Mentored I wouldn’t be where I am now. I TRIED and it FAILED, because that’s not what God was saying in this season. The LITTLE in ME (Remember that Blog) God HEALED, I would have allowed others to keep me in a place I was already freed from because they too seen something in me they didn’t want to help PUSH OUT of ME. THE COMPANY YOU KEEP is IMPORTANT (MY NEXT BLOG) for this TIME, this SEASON, and this MANDATE. To think this whole time I thought it would have continued to be the Youth in the Church. NOPE!! One day God showed me in a dream me playing school with my younger siblings in our old home in New York. Something I did often growing up. I woke up to pray and asked God what are you saying? He begin to explain to me I’ve anointed you with so many Gifts but the very one you have yet to fulfill is the one you STARTED in college, LIFE HAPPENED and you didn’t FINISH. There are many young people that’s awaiting your MOTHERLY LOVE and they are not in the Church they are in The School System. When you asked me to help you finish your undergraduate degree I made a way, it was to bring you to this point so you could FINISH WHAT YOU’VE STARTED.

An incomplete ASSIGNMENT, can cause an incomplete LIFE. You will never be satisfied in a place God never called you to. So many of us settled for careers that just pays the bills and somehow many of you still live check to check. WHY? Are you certain that you’re doing what God gifted you to do? Is this what you told God you wanted to be when you grew up? Yes, we waste time, yes we loss focus, we even GIVE UP in our MIND and in our ACTIONS. But on today God is saying if you can trust me enough to make the first step, I will make sure everything is in place for you to be able to FINISH WHAT YOU’VE STARTED.

For someone that have maxed out on Student Loans (God made a way for Me) and now I am currently pursuing my PHD. I wasted time on other things and people that didn’t matter but I too had to go back and FINISH WHAT I STARTED. This isn’t just about School, there are many things we have LEFT UNFINISHED. It’s not too late, you’re not too old, you’re not behind time, you’re RIGHT on TIME. It had to HAPPEN this way. YOU CAN DO THIS! WRITE THE BOOK, START THE BUSINESS, APPLY FOR THE JOB that you don’t QUALIFY FOR, START THE MINISTRY, START THE SECOND LOCATION, GO BACK TO SCHOOL, WRITE THE VISION, WRITE THE BUSINESS PLAN, Etc. Somethings can’t be taught, if God have GIFTED you NO DEVIL in HELL can STAND in a POSITION or PLACE that God has equipped you for. Whatever IT is, God has been tugging on your heart about that you have left UNFINISHED. I dear you to go back to Him and let Him know God I am ready to FINISH What I’ve STARTED and watch Him pave the way JUST FOR YOU.

Someone is looking for you to give you something that would change your life FOREVER, but you’ll keep missing him/her until you FINISH WHAT YOU’VE STARTED.

The LITTLE Girl In Me

Each of us have and or had something MISSING, BROKEN, and or HIDDEN inside of us. At times we result back to what we deem as a safe and comfortable place that we think protects us. I was watching the movie LITTLE, for Robyn growing up as a little girl was difficult, she was ridiculed, bullied, talked about, teased, etc. In being BROKEN she decided she didn’t like who she was and she wanted to be someone else, her parent’s told her you’re smart, so when you get older you can be anything you want including a BOSS CHICK because BOSSES don’t get BULLIED. In other words they do the bulling, but not Real HEALED Secure BOSSES. However, as she became an adult, a BOSS CHICK, rich, running her own business she hid that beautiful smile, compassion, and big heart by being mean, guarded, and tough, before anyone could bully the Little Girl in her ever again she decided she’d be the one to bully everyone she came in contact with. The Little Girl in her was BROKEN, the Boss in her was BROKEN, she was an adult that couldn’t fully trust, couldn’t open her heart to relationships there was something MISSING and HIDDEN that she had to eventually deal with. She acted out of Character and made everyone around her feel LITTLE to hide the PAIN she dealt with in her PAST that she brought into her NOW. She had to result back to a place of PAIN to be HEALED in order to function properly in her PURPOSE. BOSSES are not BULLIES, before we BOSS UP, let’s make sure the LITTLE Girl in us aren’t HIDING our Daddy Issues, Mommy Issues, Neglecting Child (ren) Issues, Rejection Issues, Trust Issues; aren’t still BROKEN from being ridiculed and bullied and aren’t MISSING out on relationships because we’re too scared to TRUST and LOVE again. What we use as protection is POISONING our POTENTIAL, STAGNATING our PROMISE and SUFFOCATING our PURPOSE.

PAUSE!!

What do you do when PROTECTING your HEART is really SUFFOCATING your PURPOSE?

Robyn had EVERYTHING she could dream of, but lived a life in FEAR from the PAST. She can not fully dive into purpose until she let go of the BROKEN little girl in her. She had it all but yet being BROKEN and GUARDED would cause us to MISS out on what GOD truly have for us. Here is a man wanting to LOVE all of her but the BROKEN Little Girl could not let him because of FEAR of being REJECTED. Women of God we have got to HEAL completely, We have to got to HEAL properly, We have got to HEAL, HEAL, HEAL, We have got to HEAL from the PAST! What’s Holding us is really What’s KILLING us. The Little Girl in us, the Petty Side, The Mean Streak, The Nobody can Check us Attitude, The Tough yet Sensitive Little Girl, The Sleeping around Girl, The Drinking Girl, The Stuck Girl, The Girl that let herself Go, etc. is Petty, Mean, Nasty, Tough, Guarded for a reason, to hide the PAIN. If we never get HEALED, we will live HIDDEN, BROKEN, MISSING Forever. If we never let anyone inside of our hearts know one would ever be able to help us reach our full potential until we come clean, be honest with ourselves and admit I NEED HELP. I’ve been operating as such for so long, I lash out because of the SUPPRESSED PAIN, I shut down because I’m afraid to TRUST; the FEAR of being REJECTED, RIDICULED, and HURT is still there but yet I operate like everything is alright. The Little Girl in Me is BROKEN, the Little Girl in Me have tried to be someone I’m not, the Little Girl in Me is HIDING the real ME, the Little in Me has to HEAL so that in my NOW (adulthood) I can fully operate without FEAR; but if again we never HEAL, if we never LET GO, we will continue to find ourselves in the same CYCLE, in the same PROCESS over and over again.

The Process only conditions us for what’s to come. If we never FACE it we won’t ever be able to EMBRACE it. Women of God we have got to deal with everything is us we keep SECRETIVE, we have got to deal with the UGLY part of us and it’s all a PROCESS.

Ever seen adults older than you, YES you that’s reading this act out of CHARACTER? NOTE THIS: There is an underling issue they have never dealt with as a LITTLE GIRL, so the Little Girl in them is starving, it has not matured, it has not been Mothered, Mentored or maybe even Fathered properly. The Little Girl struggles in her Heart, Mind, and Insecurities. Hence, why we can’t forgive folks who have done us wrong in our adulthood. Some you’ll see are Married, some are in Ministry, some have Children, some are now divorced, some are Boss Chicks, and some are just like Robyn RICH but UNHAPPY and BROKEN within. They can buy anything, they can have any Man and He too can see the BROKEN, GUARDED, TOUGH Little Girl that never dealt with her PAIN.

PAUSE!!

Aren’t You TIRED of being BROKEN, MEAN, EVIL, and NASTY? Aren’t you TIRED of HIDING? Aren’t you TIRED of MISSING out on the things God have for you? Aren’t you TIRED of just EXISTING?

If we as Women, especially us Women of God are not UPLIFTING one another, if we are not Loving one another for REAL there is an issue we must deal with quickly. The saying is true, HURT PEOPLE, HURT PEOPLE! When we are BROKEN, we are unable to LOVE right, FORGIVE and we are not peaceful and secure within ourselves.

TIP:

God can ONLY use the REAL YOU! Be YOU, Be HEALED, and Be FREE!